My father died leaving me three things: a house, his savings, and a notebook explaining why three generations of men in our family hurt the women they loved and abandoned their sons at seven
Wow! That was so powerful to read, to try and understand. The courage it took to share is immense. I hope you have healed and understand the courage, commitment to change. Thank you for sharing and making yourself and your family history so vulnerable.💙
Thank you. Healing, at least in my experience, isn’t becoming innocent again - it’s becoming conscious enough to stop passing the wound forward. I’m glad it resonated with you. 💙
Sometimes the inheritance isn’t wisdom - it’s warning signs. And if you’re paying attention, even damage can become instruction. I’m glad it resonated with you.
I see different versions of generational crap in my family. Strangely, I have always felt separate from that. They struggle with issues that I see myself as impervious to, not that I don’t have my own shit. I see a lot of myself in that heroic seven year old. After that happened, I would have been on the look out for mom for YEARS.
It seems like the notebook gave you so much to process and unravel and with a pivotal guide to healing and deepen in your understanding of your heritage beautiful peace thank you for writing
Thank you for reading it so deeply. I think some families pass down recipes, others pass down silence. The notebook was the first honest thing that interrupted that pattern.
Wow! That was so powerful to read, to try and understand. The courage it took to share is immense. I hope you have healed and understand the courage, commitment to change. Thank you for sharing and making yourself and your family history so vulnerable.💙
Thank you. Healing, at least in my experience, isn’t becoming innocent again - it’s becoming conscious enough to stop passing the wound forward. I’m glad it resonated with you. 💙
"“A roadmap. Of everything I’m doing wrong." Indeed. Negative role models are very instructive.
Sometimes the inheritance isn’t wisdom - it’s warning signs. And if you’re paying attention, even damage can become instruction. I’m glad it resonated with you.
I see different versions of generational crap in my family. Strangely, I have always felt separate from that. They struggle with issues that I see myself as impervious to, not that I don’t have my own shit. I see a lot of myself in that heroic seven year old. After that happened, I would have been on the look out for mom for YEARS.
I think I may have seen a recent travel pic of you. If so, well done !
Yup! Thanks 🙌🏻
Just what I needed today. Thanks for this!
Glad to hear that! I’m glad it resonated with you.
It did. It expressed a subject I am still studying: why do people know the right things to do yet consistently behave destructively.
It seems like the notebook gave you so much to process and unravel and with a pivotal guide to healing and deepen in your understanding of your heritage beautiful peace thank you for writing
Thank you for reading it so deeply. I think some families pass down recipes, others pass down silence. The notebook was the first honest thing that interrupted that pattern.